empath problems

it’s not you, it’s my self-worth.

Join Naomi for an audio replay of her livestream on the topic of empaths and self-worth.

Link to podcast episode: https://anchor.fm/thatsdeep/episodes/Its-Not-You–Its-My-Self-Worth-er4i1n

Many of us empaths have commitment issues. In our relationships, career, and with time and money. It can be hard for us to commit to something just for ourselves (especially because we ALWAYS think of others first). Somewhere along the journey, we started to believe that we were not worthy of investing in and pouring life back into ourselves. The following mindset blocks that pop up in our head are:

  • I have no time to commit to myself when I’m taking care of everybody else
  • I can’t afford to spend time or money on myself because I need to make sure everybody else is covered first
  • I don’t believe I can actually get what I want (because I always get what’s left over after everybody else is served first/I just have bad luck)
  • I already feel overwhelmed
  • I need to check in with partner/husband/wife/parent/etc. before I can make decisions about committing to anyone else
  • There are many factors that come into play that create our commitment issues (ex. Difficulty trusting others, past relationship trauma, etc.)

But our self-worth plays a HUGE role!Let’s clear up some definitions around self-worth, because we see this term being used interchangeably with words like self-confidence, etc. (they’re related but different).Self-worth: A sense of one’s own value as a human being.Self-esteem: Confidence and satisfaction in oneself (how you feel about yourself overall).Self-confidence: Confidence in one’s powers and abilities.Self-love: Love of self, an appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue.Here’s how a lack of self- worth shows up in our relationships as empaths:

  • Past trauma doesn’t allow you to fully trust your partner fully + you end up unconsciously/consciously self-sabotaging yourself + the relationship
  • Over-giving, poor boundaries, saying yes too much, and taking too much on
  • Self-sacrifice until the point of energy depletion
  • Fear of conflict + people pleasing
  • Fear of speaking your truth
  • Fear of being rejected
  • Trying to fit the mold (trying to chameleon ourselves) to our partner/family/loved ones, when we are in fact wired very differently

So, if you’re an empath looking for 1:1 guidance with releasing limiting beliefs like these, then having an NLP Life coach could be a very useful tool for you to help you step back into your personal power as an empath!I’d love to invite you to join me in the Empath Empowerment Coaching Course. Join me for this 8-week, 1:1 coaching program for empaths who want to understand their gifts, overcome energetic overwhelm, release limiting beliefs, and build better boundaries in their relationships.

*For more details on how to work with me, please visit this link: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

Conflict isn’t bad, it’s necessary

Join Naomi for her livestream audio replay on the topic of empaths and the fear of conflict. 

*LINK TO PODCAST EPISODE: https://anchor.fm/thatsdeep/episodes/Conflict-isnt-bad–its-necessary-eql10f

I share my story on how I used to be deathly afraid of conflict as an empath growing up + in my adulthood. I used to allow myself to be mistreated and taken advantage of (i.e., I was painfully shy, had a hard time speaking up, and let others walk all over me just so I wouldn’t upset the other person or start conflict in fear of being rejected or abandoned).

Example: As a kid, I would discuss my ideas/insights with someone and they’d repeatedly take it and pass it off as their own because I didn’t typically share/speak up (and I wouldn’t say anything or confront the person/problem, then I would feel resentful).


These lessons continue to present themselves in adulthood (it’s normal for all of us). The same lessons will repeat themselves until we’ve finally learned them). So here’s the uncomfortable part. Someone in the online coaching space started copying/duplicating my work, passing it off as their own, and trying to sell it (thanks repeated life lessons). First, I gave myself space to process my emotions (disappointment, frustration) because it showed me where my boundaries were, CLEARLY. It was hard to process, because this person actually received a session from me for the same service that they were trying to pass off as their own (I mean, down to using the exact name of my service + what it entails ya’ll). Ouch.I was really hesitant to discuss this today because I was worried about hurting this person’s feelings. And while I think people need to be held accountable, I also think cancel culture can be pretty messy and my intention is not to smother this person’s light or harm them back. I know that they can do better and create their own work (they’ve got it in themselves, they are a powerful creator). Scratching your head in confusion there? I bet you’re wondering, “Why are you fuming, Naomi?” Well, I still have compassion for her (yep, you know what I mean if you’re an empath). I know that the copying isn’t anything personal, but that it has more to do with them and what they’ve got going on. 


Like they say in the writing community, people “rob and duplicate” as a content creation strategy. But it doesn’t mean plagiarize or steal someone’s intellectual property (that’s a boundary violation for me).

The lesson: It’s important to set and maintain boundaries, even when it’s uncomfortable to be in conflict with someone. It shows both others and yourself how you expect to be treated and what you will/will not tolerate. It’s also important to speak your truth so you don’t minimize your self-worth and allow people to treat you in just any old way.

Sometimes is conflict petty and not worth bothering with when you’ve got other things to focus on? Yes. But be clear on what your boundaries are when you find yourself facing conflict.

Stronger boundaries = stronger satisfaction in the way you expect to be treated in relationships (romantic, platonic, family). These types of misconceptions are deeply rooted in self-limiting beliefs. And self-limiting beliefs live in the subconscious mind. Which is why NLP is a great tool to release them.

*For more details on how you can work with me 1:1 for private coaching, please visit this link:  https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

*Link to free empath type quiz: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empath-quiz/